So I have been married for exactly one month and eight days...and it's been wonderful. It's really not so amazing in an amazing kind of way how many times I'm asked "How is married life?" Just once, for grins, I want to say, "Not as great as single life." :)
So Brady and I may not be the same on certain things; i.e. leaving clothes on the floor, leaving dishes out, leaving his computer on, leaving dip cups out, etc., but we do agree that the bed should be made every morning. It makes the other stuff look not so bad. While doing this daunting task (it's actually one of the simplest chores ever) I noticed the TV remote lying on the covers and chuckled at how it seems that we sleep with the darn thing every night. Then I flashed back to just a few weeks before the wedding day, and became enlighted. (Don't get your hopes up...you may already be "enlightened" about this.)
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Brady walks in to the room after I have made the bed, and begins to search for the remote controller. After a few minutes of peeking behind pillows and opening dresser drawers, he finds it in some random place I have designated as its "home."
He then informs me that there is one thing he prefers that I do next time: make the controller visible and in plain sight. Now, normally, I wouldn't do such a thing. A remote needs a home hidden away from the naked eye. Then I realize...it's a remote. Having it on the bed after making it every morning is actually more sensible, considering we are very TV-friendly people.
Now this may seem silly, but this morning, after a month and eight days of marriage, I realized while making the bed that marriage has no room for stubbornness. Had I been hard-headed when Brady first requested that the remote be left on the bed, it would have been a waste of energy, emotion, and most importantly, time. Be stubborn about not leaving the water on. Be stubborn about neglecting to throw out rotten produce from the fridge. Even be stubborn about some horrible habit that your spouse may have. Be stubborn about things that you know in your heart of hearts (OK, I know I'm exaggerating) you simply will not be able to live peacefully with; but choose your battles. If you are stubborn about the little, insignificant things, the bigger and more important things will be "just another chance to bicker."
In other news...married life is simply wonderful. We now have two puppies, and rather than it being miserable and time consuming, it has made Brady and I feel a great sense of responsibility and maturity. Plus, getting to cuddle up next to that stud every night and for a few minutes every morning is pretty much priceless.
